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Running a business often feels like a constant tug of war. You have a vision for where the company should go, but you are frequently met with resistance or specific demands from your staff. This pressure can lead to sleepless nights and a feeling of isolation as you navigate the complexities of leadership. It feels like every decision is a battle of wills. This is where understanding the difference between a position and an interest becomes a vital tool for any leader who wants to build something that lasts.
In the world of negotiation and conflict resolution , a position is a surface level demand. It is the what that someone insists upon. When an employee says they will not work on weekends, that is a position. It is binary. You either agree or you do not. Positions are often presented as the only solution to a problem, which leaves little room for movement.
Interests are the underlying motivations. They are the why behind the demand. The employee might refuse weekend work because they have a specific family commitment or because they are feeling burned out and fear for their health. The interest is the need for rest or family time. By identifying the interest, you open up the possibility for multiple solutions that satisfy the core need.
When managers focus only on positions, they limit their options and create a win or lose environment. This dynamic can quickly erode the trust you have worked hard to build. You might feel that if you give in to a position, you are losing control of your business. If you refuse, you might lose a talented team member who feels unheard.

The main difference lies in the number of potential solutions. A position usually has only one solution: getting exactly what was asked for. An interest can be satisfied in many different ways. If a manager demands a report by Friday at 5 PM, their interest might be having enough time to review it before a Monday meeting. If the employee says they cannot finish by then, their interest might be ensuring the data is accurate. By focusing on the interests, they might agree to a partial report on Friday or a final version by Sunday night.
Think about the last time you had a disagreement with a staff member. Was the argument about the specific thing they wanted, or did you get to the heart of why they wanted it? When you stop fighting over positions, you start solving for interests. This builds a culture where people feel heard and valued. It also removes the burden of having to win every argument.
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There are many things we do not know when we manage people. We cannot read minds and we often do not know what is happening in the personal lives of our staff. However, by using the interest vs. position model, we acknowledge that there is always more beneath the surface. We can ask ourselves what information we are missing and what systemic pressures might be forcing people into rigid stances. This method allows you to iterate on your management style and build a solid foundation for your organization.
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